Monday, July 16, 2007

Sacrifices of being a sahm

 "With great power comes great responsibility." This is my gift, my curse."

"Fear of the name only increases fear of the thing itself."-Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets


July 16: What sacrifices have you made as a SAHM or a Working Mom?

Ok before I get into today's mommy talk I have to tell y'all about the little stunt my Monkey tried to pull.  Alright well I was cleaning up some stuff and I start to hear him cry and then Sweet Pea yells "Mom he's crying and won't stop."  So I go over to see the problem because at first I thought she took his toy-nope that wasn't the problem.  The problem was he climbed into the entertainment center where you put the stero, anyways he gets in there turns himself around and then freaks because he's to scraed to turn around or to let himself fall out.  Well being the loving mom I am I took one look started laughing and got the camera.  And yes after I took the picture I got him out and gave him a big hug and kiss.  I haven't seen him try to crawl up in there since.

Ok now back to Mommy Talk.  Never in a million years did I ever see myself as a sahm but that all changed the moment Sweet Pea came in to the world.  I was able to stay home for awhile, then went back to work and realized that I didn't want to miss out of her life and plus I wanted another baby.  Deciding to be a sahm wasn't the easiest decision because David and knew that financially it would be hard and it has been but it's been worth it watching my kids grow.  Not only that but I don't have a degreee (currently in shcool) and I knew whatever job I find would be enough to pay for daycare and with very, very little in the end.  So really with two kids it's kind of pointless, oh and I was always in daycare and didn't want that for my kids.  Now please here me I don't think there is anything wrong with daycares and my mom had to because it was only her.  But for me and my family I really wanted to be the one to take care of them and see all their firsts .

Second sacrifice: being around other adults.  I love my kids but man do I miss having a real conversation with an adult.  I've tried playdates-don't get me started, I'll save that for another day.  I miss meeting new people and getting to interact with adults.  But I have made some good friends at church, and since blogging y'all have helped soooo much.  Oh and since Ashly stays home I talk to her all day too.  Seriously though being able to blog and talk to other moms has been such a blessing to me because even though I don't see any of y'all face-to-face I'm still getting the adult interaction I need.

So what about y'all out there what are the sacrifices any of you have made by working or staying home.


Jessica said...

I hear ya! What's an adult conversation these days?!

Sue said...

Great post. I never would have survived being away from my girls 40-50 hours per week. Great post.

I had to LOL over the entertainment center stunt. I'm famous for getting the camera b4 getting my girls out of similar predicaments (barring times they're hurt, of course). ;) Glad to know I'm not the only one.

Tracy said...

I'm glad I'm not the only one who makes sure to document the moment with a picture before I save them. Whew..that made me feel so much better about myself! That was too funny!
You and I could have written the same Mommy Talk post! I too miss the adult convesation that comes with working. My biggest conversation of the day was one about Scooby Doo!

ChupieandJsmama said...

I agree with the adult interaction! I know way more about what goes on in the life of The Backyardigans than I care to admit. I definitely miss adult conversation :)

MGM said...

Well, I just made a long comment on the same topic at Tracy's place, so I'll spare us all the re-run. I did crack up at the description of taking a picture of something before you bail your kid out. I do that. I've even been known to tell them to never do something again (after I take a picture of how cute they are doing it). Yikes! Double message, or what?